IRS Tells Married Couples to File as Single
The federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) not only denies legally married gay couples the benefits of marriage, but we are also told to disavow our spouses and file our taxes as "single."
"Under penalties of perjury, I declare that I have examined this return and accompanying schedules and statements, and to the best of my knowledge and belief, they are true and complete."
-IRS Form 1040
Each year the federal government demands that thousands of gay married couples lie.
Across the country, legally married gay couples are taking a stand. We are refusing to lie about the fact that we are married.
Taking this principled stand is not without risk and each person doing so needs to carefully consider those risks before deciding if it is a stand you are willing to take.
This website is intended to be a resource to all who decide to refuse to lie. And it is a place for everyone who believes in marriage equality to show your support and stand with us by adding your name to this effort.
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Tell the IRS to stop discriminating against married gay couples.
Add your name to the call for an end to the so-called Defense of Marriage Act that denies gay couples full marriage equality.
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We got married on what seemed like the most beautiful day ever in Vermont, surrounded by 80 of our friends and family at the Burlington Quaker Meeting House. We committed, in front our loved ones and duly authorized representatives of the State of Vermont, to love, cherish and protect each other for the rest of our lives. It would be both dishonest and deeply humiliating to now disavow each other or our marriage and declare ourselves single on our tax form.
Sandy and I do our very best to raise our kids to live with integrity, power in the world and openness to what is possible. The core values we try to instill in Julian and Ariana are compromised every time we deny who Sandy and I are to each other and every time we diminish what we mean to each other. We will no longer participate in the government’s erasure of our relationship and our marriage. We want our kids to grow up with the courage to step out and step up, even if it is difficult or risky. For us, refusing to lie on our taxes is a straightforward, and pretty minor way to demonstrate that courage ourselves.